Asking Eric: How do we bring up all the red flags we see in our family member’s girlfriend?

Family members are seeking advice from R. Eric Thomas regarding red flags observed in their son's girlfriend. Concerns center on her self-centeredness and self-serving habits, which frequently override the son's own plans and desires. Specifically, the girlfriend prioritizes pursuing a Ph.D. over marriage, leaving the parents feeling heavy-hearted after most interactions. The family struggles to determine if her ambitions are genuine red flags or if they are judging her priorities incorrectly during this relationship.