Dear Abby: I'm in love with a woman 35 years older than me. What will her kids say?

A younger man is struggling with his long-term romantic feelings for a woman who is 35 years his senior. He expresses significant fear regarding her potential shock upon learning the truth. Furthermore, he is deeply concerned about the reaction of her children, as he grew up alongside them. He currently wishes to keep his emotions secret to avoid potential conflict or judgment from the family while weighing if the risk of confession is worth it.